Saturday, 20 June 2015

Perspective

Hello! I went to watch Minions today - it was so funny, please go watch it. I promise there will be chuckles and full out laughter + some squeals for the cuteness. Jeez, went to watch it with James and my parents and the laughter that resounded through the cinema was so infectious :D

Either way, I'm writing today about perspective. Yesterday, my friends and I were chatting about stuff when one of them mentioned, "What would you ask God if you died?" I thought about it and then mentioned one of the most sensitive issues/topics this 20th century: feminism.

Things like "I wonder why women are treated like commodities" or "respect" came up, and as we were dealing with Islam and Christianity, we all had questions that were similar. They talked about the hijab and how it doesn't stop people from whistling at them or guys hitting on them - issues like that. There was a short discussion and we left it there.

Today, James and I started talking about this. I asked him about things like "why is it that men treat women like this and that and think that they should e.g. "be in the kitchen making sandwiches" and stuff. Then he said that it all depends on perspective.

"I understand that some men treat women like commodities but why is it that women consider being at home and "making sandwiches" as something inferior as compared to being the breadwinner? When there are things that people want, they tend to see their current position as 'inferior', that's why so many women demand better things like equal pay and jobs nowadays."

This was what he said. And I can see his viewpoint. Something we agreed on was that people in general tend to have viewpoints that are biased towards themselves, especially when it comes to getting something that they want. Like "I want this job, I'm the best candidate" and stuff like that. Also addressing the gender stereotype that boys are better - it all stems from waaaaaaaaaay back, and things like wanting a son for a firstborn is ingrained into us, mostly.

Things like continuing the family name and being the breadwinner and stuff, etc. Also it is proven that firstborns are better developed due to the attention their parents lavish on them, and also receive better treatment etc. This resonates in the workforce, where there are more men than women present.

Let's say someone applies for a job. 10 applicants are male and 3 are female. The job is more likely given to the male due to majority. Another issue is that women tend to be more sentimental, and men think more logically. Due to this, some people may be inclined to give the job to men. Also makes it easier to get along if they're all males. Simple.

Sometimes it's not about the woman, as seen above. But sometimes it is. Women can also be treated unfairly at work, due to their superiors being mostly men. Often they are objectified, and sometimes hired due to their "hotness" (e.g. Hooters LOL) and things like that are what feminism tries to eradicate. Often stories are told about women who have been approached by their superiors for sexual favours, and when rejected, they lose the job. Their foothold in the corporate world may not be very strong.

But either way, we agreed that feminism exists for equality - same pay, better treatment, and things like rape shouldn't be a joke, or taken as a joke. People say they want things to change - but they don't want to make the change. And I think that if we want things to be different, our generation has to take a stance against it. Raise our children with the mindset that women are to be respected, and that rape is wrong.

It's not hard to educate children the right way. The irony in this is that the older generation says that our current generation is screwed up - but they were the ones who raised us. Racism, sexism, anti-gay rallies and protests - these things shouldn't exist. And if we raise our children correctly, they shouldn't even be happening.

Start now. Tell your friends, tell your friends to tell their friends. It's never really too late to change things, until it becomes irreversible.

Sunday, 14 June 2015

Mavyllos

Sometimes the grief that lives inside me gets close to unbearable. I hope to never feel this same way again. The irony of living with books is that though you understand more, you also are susceptible to hurting more, because you know why. And how it happened. We all hope, but it is a double-edged sword. It takes you to heights that you've never soared to before, and sometimes you find your footing in the clouds.

But often times you fall backwards onto the very sword that you put your chances on, and it hurts like a bitch. Some even call hope a demon, because it lifts you high up and throws you down like a wrestler.

Jesus, save me from this hell that I've gotten myself into.

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You know what pisses me off? Hypocrites. Sure, one can justify that everyone will be one at some point of their lives, and I can understand that. Double standards are a common reason why. You can think that someone's below you for doing 'A', but when you do 'A' you're like, "Oh it's different from what they did."

Okay, so how is that different? I learnt this the hard way where I had so many people call me a hypocrite because I said one thing was bad and then I went to do it anyways. You are not THAT special, contrary to popular belief.

You better wipe your own ass cause no one is going to clean up after your mess, and I know for sure that Karma will strike swift and deadly and knock you off your feet. And after all that you have done, I hope you never get back onto your feet because the world doesn't deserve to witness your dirty deeds.

Did you think that no one would see you for what you are? I do. And if anyone's the queen of hypocrisy, it's you. Calling someone out for pulling the victim card? Don't you do that too? The amount of humor I could mine from this is endless. The irony could probably feed anyone with iron deficiency. :)

Pot calling the kettle black, ain't it? Oh, I'm not pointing fingers. If you ever read this, you know who you are. The shoe fits only one person. And I'm saying all of these not because I care about you - you killed that part of me long ago. I'm saying all of these because hypocrisy needs to be told.

And on the account of our past friendship, let this post be a warning to you. Not from me only, but the ones who have seen you for what you really are.

A no-good, selfish, victim-playing little girl. I hope you find happiness in the things that you've thrown away our friendships/relationships for. 'Cause if you don't - we'll all be laughing.